When Loved Ones Don’t Understand

Have you ever find yourself sharing your ideas, goals, dreams with someone close to you, thinking they will be excited and rooting for you. Next you find out they will be the first one to make you feel doubt and discourage you before you even begin.  This is why many people have become guarded with whom they share their dreams and goals.

They will look to guard themselves from someone who:

  • Will not genuinely support them.
  • Cares about them but who will make the wrong comments or suggestions out of fear.
  • Wants you to play it safe and avoid pursuing your biggest goals and dreams because they are not guaranteed to happen.

Sometimes there will be people close to you who will not give you the support you thought they would. Don’t let this discourage you. If this happens, you must still keep on going. Learn that this doesn’t only happen to you.   Most people who started something they wanted or believed in, found some form of opposition.

Oftentimes believe it or not, that opposition can come from oneself. When you find a thousand excuses not to do something, not to start something, that’s opposition coming from within. And out of all oppositions you may face, the one from within is the worst of all.

So let’s work on yourself by being your number one fan to yourself. Root for yourself. Despite of oppositions (conscious or unconscious), there are still so many people who inspire us to be our best, who motivate us. And even when you feel lonely on your own quest, keep on going. Stay away from those who discourage you and find your community of support. Those who genuinely care about you and have your best interest at heart will soon or later also join in with encouragement and support.

God bless you, with love,

Querin

Change

“I learned that COURAGE was not the absence of fear, but THE TRIUMPH OVER IT.  THE BRAVE MAN is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who CONQUERS THAT FEAR,”

~Nelson Mandela

There is a big mess in my apartment in preparation for the big move.  I’ve been getting things ready and have neglected the writing a little.  But I can’t wait to get my fingers back on my keyboard and type my fingerprints off of them.  Ok, that’s obviously an exaggeration; what I am simply trying to say is that I miss this moment…my writing moment.  It feels very special to me.  It is like a therapy and it allows me to share things with someone out there.

Pretty soon, I will resume back to publish posts more frequent.  I am making some major changes this year: moving, taking my career to the next level, focusing more on wellbeing and redefining success in my life.  Since the beginning of this year (2015),  I knew I was making some changes and it is now happening.  The book  Thrive by Ariana Huffington helped to reinforce my decision.  It is a great book and she touches so many important points about life and about what success truly is.   I will share more about these changes in upcoming posts but for now I just want to say that I am grateful everyday and I am looking ahead.

I wish you all that you can find in your hearts the courage and the discipline to make those changes you’ve been wanting to make and you know are for better.  I myself, am a work in progress, but it’s a beautiful journey nevertheless.

 

God bless you – with lots of love,

Querin

Let Go

Was there someone who came into your life?  Someone you did not necessarily invite, but somehow, filtered into your life, uninvited and unwelcome?  They somehow forced their way into your life, into being part of you.  Your instincts clearly told you to be aware.  Something inside of you told you to be careful, to not allow this person into your life.  Yet somehow, they kept pushing, insisting, persisting, in a “friendly way” in a friendly manner, to the point that you started letting your guard down and you allowed them into your life, despite that primitive instinct that alerts us when danger is near.

Maybe you allowed them into your life because you believe you are good, and your good will overpower and conquer their evil.  Your good will help them and will transform them into better human being.  After all, you believe you are a warrior for the good and a warrior goes out there and fight.  A warrior doesn’t hide.  No matter how bad they may be, you start caring about them.  You start wanting better for them.  When they speak negatively about themselves, you are there to tell them how special they are, and that no matter how bad they may think they are, God loves them.  No matter how bad they think they may be, they will never be too bad for God not to save them if they decide to change their ways.  You give them hope.  You listen to their problems.  You tell them to fight for what they truly love and to not give up on love, on live and on all the beautiful things God has created for us.

No matter how bad they think they are, you try to see the good in them.  You know you took a risk allowing them in your life.  You know you may have different paths in life, but you want to at least try to make a difference in them and remember all the good when you depart from each other.

Then one day, after you have been there for them, with them.  they turn around and coldly insult you, mistreat you, attack you.  They show no emotions, no feelings, no respect.  They try to bring your morale down.  They knew and know you are very special, but they are trying to make you feel otherwise.  They try to make you feel anger.  They say ugly things.  This however, doesn’t come as a surprise to you.  Your instinct after all, was alerting you all along, but you had decide to ignore your instinct.  You know that you had good intentions, the best intentions to try to help them, but now they are trying to hurt you.

You are strong and resilient, and you know they will not be able to hurt you.  They think they are hurting you but they are actually hurting themselves, because now, YOU, someone who truly cared about them, will walk away.  They will not change you into a bitter person, because you know better, because life has already walked you thru some strengthening experiences.  And in that process, you passed the test.  You did not become a bitter person, but one who is compassionate and know that people will let you down sometimes.  You did not become a victim, but someone who became stronger as a result.

When someone wants to destroy or harm you, they destroy themselves.  They harm themselves.  Even if someone tries to hurt you, your body and mind have and incredible capacity to heal itself.  Just allow it time, and the proper environment and thoughts and you’ll be amazed.  Let Go of them, let go of the person for good and without regrets.  Life teaches us lessons, some are easier and some are a little tougher.  I know this may be hard to do, but do a prayer for them.  After all, they will need a lot of prayer, because they will no longer have by their side that pretty AWESOME and AMAZING person–YOU.

“Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior.  Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.” –#Beyondordinary

 

With lots of love,

Querin

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2015

Hello beautiful people – may this new year be an amazing year for us all.  Be fearless on the pursuit of your dreams.  And when fear tries to trickle in, kick it in the behind.

Someone very close to me gave me a word of wisdom a few days ago.  My sister in law and I were having a conversation about family matters and she said to me that sometimes when some people do not have any expectations of you, or do not believe in you, you should not try to convince them with words to believe.  Instead, she said, stay quiet and show them with actions.  That was the wisest thing I have ever heard her say and it really resonates  with me and with the things I am working to accomplish in life.  I actually believe this resonates with us all.

Be deaf to negative and destructive criticism and work hard towards accomplishing your goals and making your dreams come true.  That’s where your energy has to be spent.

Despite any challenges you may face this year, be nice to everyone.  Be nice to yourself. Take good care of yourself.  Nurture yourself and give empowering words to those around you.

I know that for me this is going to be a year of hard work as there are some important projects I am working on.  But that is a good thing; hard work is good work when you are working towards your goals and dreams.

God Bless you ALWAYS – and remember SPEAK LIFE…

With love,

Querin

Gratitude

I am so blessed.  I am so grateful.  This year, despite a few bumps on the road, has been an amazing year.  I say that for various reasons: I have grown more spiritually.  My relationship with God is more intimate.  He is my guidance in life.  I’ve made decisions and I’ve taken action in terms of my career.  I’ve made decisions in terms of my continuous growth and development.

I can honestly say that I am at a happy place in my life.  I still have a lot that I want to accomplish but I know that success is not just about reaching a destination. Success is enjoying the journey.  Success lies in the ability to be happy right now, doing what you do.  I have learned to listen to my inner voice and to become more in tune  with my intuition.  I feel something in me has changed in a very special way.  I am so grateful.

Before I reached this point where I am now, I was struggling with indecision.  When I was finally able to decide what to do, I felt relieved and ready for action and for the next step.  Indecision holds us back because since we do not know what decision to make, we cannot act upon it.  Once we are able to decide with a deep and inner trust and faith, miracles can happen.

I love #Girlboss

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If you do not know yet who she is, you will soon find out.  Sophia Amoruso, author of #Girlboss, is also the founder and CEO of Nasty Gal, an online fashion store for girls with confidence and attitude.  I came across her  book while I was at Barnes & Noble.

The Title was initially what caught my attention #Girlboss.  As soon as I started reading her book, my admiration for Sophia was instant.  I bought the book and read it.  She is different.  This book is different.  She is authentic.  On her book, she tells you how she made it…even with ALL the odds against her.  She went thru quiet some stuff before she found what she really enjoyed doing, and once she found it, success followed.

I love this book.  As a #Girlboss myself, it makes me very happy that a book like this exist.  No matter what challenges you go thru in live, never stop believing in yourself, work hard towards your goals and dreams.  Pursue happiness and don’t stop pursuing it until you find it.

With love,

Querin

The Rebirth Of The World Trade Center

 

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I pass by the 9/11 memorial site almost daily.  The museum opened its doors to the public a few weeks ago.  My mother had been wanting to go to the site, so we both went to the museum for the first time today.  It was a profound experience.  The museum is actually underground.  It is a story about the endurance, resilience, courage, rebirth and love of the American people.   God bless The United States of America.  God bless us all.

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Before arriving at the memorial museum, we made a quick stop at the Liberty Park (formerly known as Zuccoti park) and took pictures with the financial man statue.

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About Finding Ultra

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This book was given to me by a friend at work.  I just started reading it and it is already on my list of favorite books.  Just the preface alone almost made me tear.  This is a story about willpower, but I am finding, within the story, other mini-stories.  One of them for example is on the preface.  Rich is recounting day two of the Ultraman competition.  Day one had been a success and he had finished in 1st place with 10 minutes ahead o the 2nd place competitor.

On day 2, the story was much more different.  He fell off his bike and got hurt.  His bicycle lost a pedal and it happened in the one area where the assistance crew was not allowed to park which meant he was all alone with no one to help.  That was it for him.  There was no way he could continue the race.  He had no choice but to quit as there was no way he could race the one hundred thirty five miles he still had a ahead of him on a broken bicycle.  What a shame, all his hard work was thrown away in a matter of seconds.

He got on his bike and pedaled with one leg while the other hanged loose.  There was one more mile before he could get to where the assistance crew was waiting.  There he would mount his bike on his truck and head back to the hotel. How embarrassed must he had felt.  It was all over for him…or so he thought. This is where the assistance crew came into play and this is where you understand that no one makes it alone.  His assistance crew was there to help him, but that was not what stroke me as that was expected.  What impacted me the most was when he says “I’m suddenly surrounded by half a dozen crew members–from other competitors’ crews–all rushing to my aid.” What impacted me also was the action of Peter getting him a new pedal so that he could continue the race then looked him in the eye and told him “This is not over. Now, get back on your bike and get id done.”