The Beauty of Simplifying

It’s liberating. It’s empowering. What I’m I talking about? I’m talking about not having so much stuff. It took for me to move out of the country in 2015 and come back seven months later. I had a beautifully furnished apartment…and then I was selling everything, except for my clothes and my books. I took boxes and boxes of books, and my over 100 pairs of shoes with me to the Dominican Republic. I sold a sofa that I had purchased for over $900.00 dollars for $400.00. I got rid of a tempurpedic mattress that had cost $3,000.00 dollars. I got rid of a lot of stuff: nice and expensive kitchen ware, book shelf, desk, desk chair, printer, stuff, stuff, and more stuff.

Many of my friends and colleagues were shocked to find out I was making such big change. After all, I had a very stable job and a very nice apartment (with no roommates). But I felt that I needed a change and God knows I am glad I did it. If it would not have been for that decision, my baby Issac might not have been here today, for it was during the time spent in DR that I got to know my husband better (at the time he was my boyfriend). It was during that time that I knew my husband was marriage material. I also got to know my native land better. I got to spend time with local Domincans on a day-to-day basis (not just as a tourist). It was during that time that my life was not just about work work work, but I was more in tune with nature. Heck, it was during that time that I was eating fresh fish directly from the sea, brought by the fishermen and on to the kitchen. It was during that time that I got to see and experience first hand the tremendous work ethics that many Dominicans have. I got to love them a little more during that time.

Fast forward seven months later, I came back to New Jersey & New York City (I live in Jersey, work in the city). This time, I only brought two bags with me. All of my over 100 pairs of shoes, plus most of my books were left back in DR. I realized that having stuff could be more a burden than a blessing, at least when you are traveling and moving around. This realization is quite liberating for me spiritually, as well as for my pocket (or for my hard earned money).

So what is simplifying? To me it is buying things that I really need or that will serve a valid purpose. It is getting rid of things that will not add value or serve a purpose to me. It is being more spiritually in tune and less connected to the superficial world. If I would have been the type of person who gets attached to “things.” I would not have made that trip to DR, and I would have missed on a heck of a great lifetime experience and blessing.

By the way…I came back to work with the same company I had worked for when I left. You see, when you do the right thing and when you have good work ethics, people will give you the opportunity. So don’t be afraid, just do the right thing.

God bless you,

Querin

The Beauty of Solitude

One of the reasons I love the countryside is for the peacefulness and the quietness that can be found there. Nothing can compare with listening to the sound of real birds in the morning (not an alarm clock sound or a white noise machine). At the same time, I am so blessed to have the opportunity to work in one of the best and busiest cities in the world: New York City.

Yes, I love New York City. In 2015, as you know (if you’ve read my previous posts), I took a nice detour in my career and moved to The Dominican Republic. While I was there, I got to know my native land a little better and visited quite a few places. I reconnected with my roots.   While I was there however, I realized how much I missed New York City. Seven months later, I came back to The Big Apple.

I enjoy working in one of the busiest places in the world, yet I also love the peacefulness that is found in solitude and in quietness. How good it feels to read a book and just be still. How special it is to spend time in silence with God. It is in solitude that I come up with so many ideas and with solutions to “problems.”

When I had my baby, shortly after, I discovered that breast milk doesn’t just come out. At the beginning, I was a little stressed about not having enough supply for my demander. Colostrum, as I found out, is more precious than gold. And breast milk is absolutely the winner of the label “gold liquid.” But I remember that it was one night, a few days after my baby was born that my letdown (breast milk) really happened. It was an evening on which I was quiet, the baby was sleeping soundly, and so was my mom, who was with me in the hospital, and I was just feeling very peaceful in that moment, in solitude.

God bless you,

Querin

Giving back

Here in the Dominican Republic, kids start the school year in August. This year I was able to do something that God had put in my heart for some time. I, with a group of amazing people who have amazing hearts and care about people and humanity, donated over 200 backpacks and school supplies to kids under the poverty line here in DR. The supplies in the backpacks were notebooks, pencils, coloring pencils, pens, erasers, pencil sharpeners, rules and geometry sets.

Here are some of the pictures we took.

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Love you all,

Querin

Change

“I learned that COURAGE was not the absence of fear, but THE TRIUMPH OVER IT.  THE BRAVE MAN is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who CONQUERS THAT FEAR,”

~Nelson Mandela

There is a big mess in my apartment in preparation for the big move.  I’ve been getting things ready and have neglected the writing a little.  But I can’t wait to get my fingers back on my keyboard and type my fingerprints off of them.  Ok, that’s obviously an exaggeration; what I am simply trying to say is that I miss this moment…my writing moment.  It feels very special to me.  It is like a therapy and it allows me to share things with someone out there.

Pretty soon, I will resume back to publish posts more frequent.  I am making some major changes this year: moving, taking my career to the next level, focusing more on wellbeing and redefining success in my life.  Since the beginning of this year (2015),  I knew I was making some changes and it is now happening.  The book  Thrive by Ariana Huffington helped to reinforce my decision.  It is a great book and she touches so many important points about life and about what success truly is.   I will share more about these changes in upcoming posts but for now I just want to say that I am grateful everyday and I am looking ahead.

I wish you all that you can find in your hearts the courage and the discipline to make those changes you’ve been wanting to make and you know are for better.  I myself, am a work in progress, but it’s a beautiful journey nevertheless.

 

God bless you – with lots of love,

Querin

Let Go

Was there someone who came into your life?  Someone you did not necessarily invite, but somehow, filtered into your life, uninvited and unwelcome?  They somehow forced their way into your life, into being part of you.  Your instincts clearly told you to be aware.  Something inside of you told you to be careful, to not allow this person into your life.  Yet somehow, they kept pushing, insisting, persisting, in a “friendly way” in a friendly manner, to the point that you started letting your guard down and you allowed them into your life, despite that primitive instinct that alerts us when danger is near.

Maybe you allowed them into your life because you believe you are good, and your good will overpower and conquer their evil.  Your good will help them and will transform them into better human being.  After all, you believe you are a warrior for the good and a warrior goes out there and fight.  A warrior doesn’t hide.  No matter how bad they may be, you start caring about them.  You start wanting better for them.  When they speak negatively about themselves, you are there to tell them how special they are, and that no matter how bad they may think they are, God loves them.  No matter how bad they think they may be, they will never be too bad for God not to save them if they decide to change their ways.  You give them hope.  You listen to their problems.  You tell them to fight for what they truly love and to not give up on love, on live and on all the beautiful things God has created for us.

No matter how bad they think they are, you try to see the good in them.  You know you took a risk allowing them in your life.  You know you may have different paths in life, but you want to at least try to make a difference in them and remember all the good when you depart from each other.

Then one day, after you have been there for them, with them.  they turn around and coldly insult you, mistreat you, attack you.  They show no emotions, no feelings, no respect.  They try to bring your morale down.  They knew and know you are very special, but they are trying to make you feel otherwise.  They try to make you feel anger.  They say ugly things.  This however, doesn’t come as a surprise to you.  Your instinct after all, was alerting you all along, but you had decide to ignore your instinct.  You know that you had good intentions, the best intentions to try to help them, but now they are trying to hurt you.

You are strong and resilient, and you know they will not be able to hurt you.  They think they are hurting you but they are actually hurting themselves, because now, YOU, someone who truly cared about them, will walk away.  They will not change you into a bitter person, because you know better, because life has already walked you thru some strengthening experiences.  And in that process, you passed the test.  You did not become a bitter person, but one who is compassionate and know that people will let you down sometimes.  You did not become a victim, but someone who became stronger as a result.

When someone wants to destroy or harm you, they destroy themselves.  They harm themselves.  Even if someone tries to hurt you, your body and mind have and incredible capacity to heal itself.  Just allow it time, and the proper environment and thoughts and you’ll be amazed.  Let Go of them, let go of the person for good and without regrets.  Life teaches us lessons, some are easier and some are a little tougher.  I know this may be hard to do, but do a prayer for them.  After all, they will need a lot of prayer, because they will no longer have by their side that pretty AWESOME and AMAZING person–YOU.

“Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior.  Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.” –#Beyondordinary

 

With lots of love,

Querin

Become a runner

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My challenge started Tuesday, January 17, 2015.  But you can start today or set your own date for when you want to start. If you have never been a runner before, or if you haven’t run in a long time, start slow and with small goals such a s “run one mile without stopping. ” once you reach that goal increase it to two and so on.  You will be happy you made this decision.

Are you already an experienced runner or are you a beginner?   How do you plan to achieve your goals?

Ready, set, run!
With love always,
Querin