Priorities

What do I do first?  There is a lot to do and little time to do it.  Learn what is really important to you for you, in your life and career.  Take care of what must have to be taken care of, and that only you can take care of. 

Delegate and leverage those tasks that need to be done, but not necessarily by you, to others.  Delegating and leveraging effectively will free up chunks of time for you to focus and to take care of other priorities that can only be done by you. 

Simplify your process.  Test it out to see what works.  Mark Zuckerberg wears the same shirt to work out.  He simplified his action to work out.  He doesn’t have to take time thinking what is he going to wear to work out. He is practical.  He frees up time on unimportant stuffs to utilize his time on things that matter.  So start simplifying your systems to get you to get thing s done.  I for example, make me a juice or a smoothie daily.  I wash my veggies before placing them in the fridge.  Then in the morning, I just take my veggies out and make the juice.  I have simplified the process to help me to get my juice done each day.  But when I used to put my veggies in the fridge without washing them first, I did not make my veggies daily.  It would take weeks and even longer for me to make my juice or smoothies.  Making my veggie juice and drinking it is a top priority for me.  Some tasks if not really important can be crossed out as done, by simply removing them from the to do list altogether.

God Bless you, with love,

Querin

Consistency

Incorporating one healthy habit can be more sustainable than trying to start too many habits at once.  You don’t want to start making changes that will not withstand the long run.  So start small, start with one, but make that one stay.  Once that one is in place, incorporate another one, and so on. 

It is proven that starting one habit at a time creates more results than trying to take on too many at once.  Your healthy lifestyle is for life, not just for a few days, weeks or months.  Do it the right way.  Real things take time, take discipline, but the good thing is that by focusing on one positive change at a time, it will yield real results if you are disciplined. 

So incorporate one healthy habit at once.  It is said that it takes twenty-one days of repetition to create a habit.  Once you have your habit on auto pilot, in other words, that you do it without much effort or subconsciously, then you can incorporate the next one and so on.  The important thing is to be consistent. 

God bless you, with love,

Querin

When Loved Ones Don’t Understand

Have you ever find yourself sharing your ideas, goals, dreams with someone close to you, thinking they will be excited and rooting for you. Next you find out they will be the first one to make you feel doubt and discourage you before you even begin.  This is why many people have become guarded with whom they share their dreams and goals.

They will look to guard themselves from someone who:

  • Will not genuinely support them.
  • Cares about them but who will make the wrong comments or suggestions out of fear.
  • Wants you to play it safe and avoid pursuing your biggest goals and dreams because they are not guaranteed to happen.

Sometimes there will be people close to you who will not give you the support you thought they would. Don’t let this discourage you. If this happens, you must still keep on going. Learn that this doesn’t only happen to you.   Most people who started something they wanted or believed in, found some form of opposition.

Oftentimes believe it or not, that opposition can come from oneself. When you find a thousand excuses not to do something, not to start something, that’s opposition coming from within. And out of all oppositions you may face, the one from within is the worst of all.

So let’s work on yourself by being your number one fan to yourself. Root for yourself. Despite of oppositions (conscious or unconscious), there are still so many people who inspire us to be our best, who motivate us. And even when you feel lonely on your own quest, keep on going. Stay away from those who discourage you and find your community of support. Those who genuinely care about you and have your best interest at heart will soon or later also join in with encouragement and support.

God bless you, with love,

Querin

Plan, Don’t Over Plan

I am working on ways to plan more often, to be more organized and to help me achieve my goals. I love the process because I am finding what works for me. I love note taking and I really like the process of planning and organizing. However, sometimes the process of planning can go on and on and on…without execution. You’ve heard the saying “Prepare to plan or plan to fail.” Well, I say prepare to execute your plan or plan to fail. A plan without execution is nothing but a wish, or a dream, or nothing at all.

So I say, yes, do plan, but don’t over plan. Rather, execute your plan and in the execution process you will find out if your plan works or if you need to tweak it or change the plan altogether. Now that I have a family of my own and I’m also a career woman, time has become even more precious to me. So I like to simplify processes that still will create great results. But I am also learning by doing. I am learning that making small steps consistently can even be more powerful than taking big leaps once in a blue moon.

I recommend the book The Self Discipline Blueprint by Patrick Edblad. I like this book because this book is about getting you to have the discipline to do what you need to do. But this book is also about self-care. It covers topics about the importance of having a good nutrition, about sleeping enough quality hours, about moving your body and staying active and it tells you why these things are important. And then you understand that if you want to accomplish certain goals in your life, you better start working on the things that will help you get there.

So plan, don’t over plan.

 

God bless you, with love,

Querin

I Almost Did Not Make It

This morning I woke up at five in the morning as usual.  I made my veggie juice and prepared breakfast.  Great! that was part of the plan.  When I came home this evening, I had dinner.  I did not make my veggie juice right away, as I wanted some time space between dinner and the juice.

I then started playing with my baby (he is a toddler already).  He wanted mom’s attention and after not seeing him during the day, it was only fair that we had some us time before his bedtime. We had some quality time and then he asked for milk and we headed to bed. As usual I stayed by his side until he fell asleep…and then I fell asleep too.

My body did not want to get up to make the veggie juice.  I did not want to get up.  But then I heard my inner voice telling me “get up and make your veggie juice.” And just like that, I got up, walked myself to the kitchen and made my carrot, celery, apple and lemon juice.  I am so glad I did. I almost did not make it, but my inner voice told me to and I knew it was the right thing to do. I’m glad I listened to my inner voice. When you know immediately it is the right thing to do, listen to your inner voice.

God bless you, with love,

Querin

Work On Your Work

Being grateful for the little things will help you to be grateful for the big things. You heard the saying “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” If you don’t give the first step because you think it’s too small or too little, you will not be able to celebrate the big milestones.

It is being consistent with the little steps and being grateful of those small achievements that will help us to accomplish bigger and bigger ones.  It is enjoying the journey, enjoying the process.  It is being bold enough to go ahead and do something even when you feel you are not fully ready to do so.

Many of us wait to do things “when we are ready.” What is this? When we are ready? So what if you are not perfect in the beginning. Begin it anyways. So what if you get criticized for working on that thing that you feel deeply about. Work on it anyways. You will become better and better in the process of doing that which you think you are not yet ready for.  So stop making excuses and do it anyways; even if you think it sucks.

Keep grinding and keep working hard. Don’t just work when you feel motivated to do so, because then you will be inconsistent. That’s why discipline is so important; discipline helps you do the work whether you feel like doing it or not. Work on it; work at it. Do your thing.  Don’t give a care about the negative criticism.  Negative criticism is created to see if you care enough to do it regardless of the negative critics.  Amazing things can happen when you do what you need to do, when you work on what you need to work.   So work on what you need to work.

God bless you, with love,

Querin

Don’t wait to be perfect to start

A friend of mine recommended this book to me. We all can identify with our inner struggles and resistance to start doing something we feel called to do.

We may feel that we are not ready to embark on that journey that we feel very deeply about. I have learned that you cannot wait to be ready to start working on your calling and on your dream. The process of working on your calling or your dream now, even if you don’t feel ready, is what will help you to get ready.

God bless you,

Querin

A Letter To You

 

 

Hi,

How are you? I hope all is going well with you. I am writing to let you know how proud of you I am. Thank you for being you. Thank you for your hard work. Thank you for your dedication. Thank you for not giving up on your dreams and on your goals. Thank you for working hard and doing your best even when no one is looking.

I know it’s not easy. Sometimes you feel discouraged. Sometimes you ask yourself if all of your hard work will pay off. But you keep on going because your spiritual strength is much bigger than the doubts.

You are so amazing. Thank you for being in this world. You may don’t realize it but you are making such a positive contribution in this world. Each time you encourage someone who is feeling down; each time you lift someone’s spirit with your words of encouragement, you are making a positive contribution.

Don’t underestimate your value. And I don’t mean your financial net worth value. I mean your value as a human being. You don’t give yourself enough credit. And you demand more of you. Sometimes, you feel like you are not good enough. But let me tell you something. You are not just good enough. You are more than enough.

You are so precious to God. You are so precious to this world. The world may not be voicing out loud to you, but the world needs you to continue going, and to continue working on your goals and dreams.

Yes, take time to rest, but please don’t give up. When a hiccup happens, let it run its course and then get working again on your dreams and goals.

Fear will show up at times, and it will try to scare you away from working on your goals. Do you know what you need to do to fear? Stick your tongue out at it. Yes, imaging fear being a very ugly thing with horns and a tail. Oh no, wait, that might be a deer J.

So next time you are feeling fearful, lonely, overworked, and hopeless remember this verse from The Word Of God, aka the Bible: 

Don’t fear, because I am with you; don’t be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will surely help you; I will hold you with my righteous strong hand.”

~Isaiah 41:10 :

 

God bless you, with lots of love,

Querin

 

P.S. I’m rooting for you. Keep on going and keep working hard on your dreams and goals with breaks in between to rest and recharge.

The Beauty of Simplifying

It’s liberating. It’s empowering. What I’m I talking about? I’m talking about not having so much stuff. It took for me to move out of the country in 2015 and come back seven months later. I had a beautifully furnished apartment…and then I was selling everything, except for my clothes and my books. I took boxes and boxes of books, and my over 100 pairs of shoes with me to the Dominican Republic. I sold a sofa that I had purchased for over $900.00 dollars for $400.00. I got rid of a tempurpedic mattress that had cost $3,000.00 dollars. I got rid of a lot of stuff: nice and expensive kitchen ware, book shelf, desk, desk chair, printer, stuff, stuff, and more stuff.

Many of my friends and colleagues were shocked to find out I was making such big change. After all, I had a very stable job and a very nice apartment (with no roommates). But I felt that I needed a change and God knows I am glad I did it. If it would not have been for that decision, my baby might not have been here today, for it was during the time spent in DR that I got to know my husband better (at the time he was my boyfriend).  I also got to know my native land better. I got to spend time with local Dominicans on a day-to-day basis (not just as a tourist). It was during that time that my life was not just about work work work, but I was more in tune with nature. Heck, it was during that time that I was eating fresh fish directly from the sea, brought by the fishermen and on to the kitchen. It was during that time that I got to see and experience first hand the tremendous work ethics that many Dominicans have. I got to love them a little more during that time.

Fast forward seven months later, I came back to New Jersey & New York City (I live in Jersey, work in the city). This time, I only brought two bags with me. All of my over 100 pairs of shoes, plus most of my books were left back in DR. I realized that having stuff could be more a burden than a blessing, at least when you are traveling and moving around. This realization is quite liberating for me spiritually, as well as for my pocket (or for my hard earned money).

So what is simplifying? To me it is buying things that I really need or that will serve a valid purpose. It is getting rid of things that will not add value or serve a purpose to me. It is being more spiritually in tune and less connected to the superficial world. If I would have been the type of person who gets attached to “things.” I would not have made that trip to DR, and I would have missed on a heck of a great lifetime experience and blessing.

By the way…I came back to work with the same company I had worked for when I left. You see, when you do the right thing and when you have good work ethics, people will give you the opportunity. So don’t be afraid, just do the right thing.

God bless you,

Querin

The Beauty of Solitude

One of the reasons I love the countryside is for the peacefulness and the quietness that can be found there. Nothing can compare with listening to the sound of real birds in the morning (not an alarm clock sound or a white noise machine). At the same time, I am so blessed to have the opportunity to work in one of the best and busiest cities in the world: New York City.

Yes, I love New York City. In 2015, as you know (if you’ve read my previous posts), I took a nice detour in my career and moved to The Dominican Republic. While I was there, I got to know my native land a little better and visited quite a few places. I reconnected with my roots.   While I was there however, I realized how much I missed New York City. Seven months later, I came back to The Big Apple.

I enjoy working in one of the busiest places in the world, yet I also love the peacefulness that is found in solitude and in quietness. How good it feels to read a book and just be still. How special it is to spend time in silence with God. It is in solitude that I come up with so many ideas and with solutions to “problems.”

When I had my baby, shortly after, I discovered that breast milk doesn’t just come out. At the beginning, I was a little stressed about not having enough supply for my demander. Colostrum, as I found out, is more precious than gold. And breast milk is absolutely the winner of the label “gold liquid.” But I remember that it was one night, a few days after my baby was born that my letdown (breast milk) really happened. It was an evening on which I was quiet, the baby was sleeping soundly, and so was my mom, who was with me in the hospital, and I was just feeling very peaceful in that moment, in solitude.

God bless you,

Querin