Don’t wait to be perfect to start

A friend of mine recommended this book to me. We all can identify with our inner struggles and resistance to start doing something we feel called to do.

We may feel that we are not ready to embark on that journey that we feel very deeply about. I have learned that you cannot wait to be ready to start working on your calling and on your dream. The process of working on your calling or your dream now, even if you don’t feel ready, is what will help you to get ready.

God bless you,

Querin

My Little One’s Day Out

Date: Wednesday November 7th, 2018

Where: New York City (Flat Iron district, Time Square, Bryant Park)

Weather: 59 degrees Fahrenheit & Sunny

Places : Eataly, Lego Store, Bryant Park

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I checked the weather forecast days ahead and the forecast showed it would be a nice sunny day with temperatures of 50 degrees Fahrenheit. So I planned to spend the day out with mom and son. My husband had to work, therefore he could not join us.

I thought this was a perfect day to spend outside with mom and my little one. We had a great time and part of having such a great of a time was preplanning in advance so that we could leave the house early enough to enjoy most of the day out and still come back home at a decent time in the afternoon.

Back in my pre-baby days when I did not have a family of my own that included a baby (or young toddler) were very different. If I wanted to go out, I would just go out. IT was that simple. But now I’ve learned that if I want to go out with my family and especially if I want my little one to have a great time; I have to research, pre-plan, and execute what I plan.

I also realized that not everything works according to plan, for example, I wanted us to be in the Flat Iron district by 9:30 am. But we got there at approximate 10:15 am. Still planning did help us a lot, because if I did not have a time goal, we could have arrived at 12 noon instead of 10:15 am. I woke up at 5:30 am, prepped everything we were taking for the baby.

In the planning phase, I did not take into considerations that we would need to find the elevators in the subway stations we were using to get us to the subway and back up to ground level. Because with a toddler, a stroller, a diaper bag, etc. you need to know where the elevators are.  After this trip, I learned this is another reason why is important to give yourself extra time when traveling or out with a baby. Logistics, logistic, logistics. Also, some subway stations don’t even have elevators, so you may have to use muscle power just like I did.

Just go out and have fun with your little one. If you overthink it, and over preplan, you may not go out at all. Don’t do that. Once you are out and about with your baby, you will be so glad that you did. Plus, there are still a lot of nice people out in the world. We had a couple of people who asked “do you need help?” when there was a stair in front of us and no elevators in sight. Use the information center; that’s what they are there for. Ask the NYPD, when we did not see any signs for the elevators and we needed one for sure, we asked a NY police officer. He directed us on the right direction to the elevators. On our way back home, when we were returning to Jersey, I spoke to one of the NJ transit reps and told him that I could not walk up the steep stairs/escalators they had (with no elevator to get to it) and he had my bus meet me on the level where I was. I didn’t even know they did that, but yes they do! You just have to ask.

Despite those little hiccups with the elevators in the subway and NJ transit, it was all worth it. Isaac had a great time. I don’t just start talking to strangers, but my little one just walks to other kids and stars socializing. I love to see him doing this. Children start with a clean slate. They don’t have any preconceived notions or prejudice until adults teach them otherwise and start messing them up.

My boy had a great time. I observed that he is very sociable with other children. He gravitates towards them and I love that. One case in particular that I observed was this little girl (older than him) who initially did not want to play with him. Yet, he kept gravitating towards her and eventually she started smiling, running with him, laughing with him and all of a sudden they were playing together.

In short this is what we did:

  • Took a bus to NYC
  • Took the subway (my boy loves to see the train running)
  • Went to Eataly – had breakfast – had a great time here
  • Went to the Lego Store (baby fell asleep ) and I got him his first Lego toys
  • Went to Bryant park – here I thought we would not spend much time and this was my little one’s favorite part of the trip. He was watching the ice-skaters and then started walking around and socializing with other kids. He did not want to leave
  • Took the bus – came back home

This was Isaac’s day out

 

God bless you, with love,

Querin

A Letter To You

 

 

Hi,

How are you? I hope all is going well with you. I am writing to let you know how proud of you I am. Thank you for being you. Thank you for your hard work. Thank you for your dedication. Thank you for not giving up on your dreams and on your goals. Thank you for working hard and doing your best even when no one is looking.

I know it’s not easy. Sometimes you feel discouraged. Sometimes you ask yourself if all of your hard work will pay off. But you keep on going because your spiritual strength is much bigger than the doubts.

You are so amazing. Thank you for being in this world. You may don’t realize it but you are making such a positive contribution in this world. Each time you encourage someone who is feeling down; each time you lift someone’s spirit with your words of encouragement, you are making a positive contribution.

Don’t underestimate your value. And I don’t mean your financial net worth value. I mean your value as a human being. You don’t give yourself enough credit. And you demand more of you. Sometimes, you feel like you are not good enough. But let me tell you something. You are not just good enough. You are more than enough.

You are so precious to God. You are so precious to this world. The world may not be voicing out loud to you, but the world needs you to continue going, and to continue working on your goals and dreams.

Yes, take time to rest, but please don’t give up. When a hiccup happens, let it run its course and then get working again on your dreams and goals.

Fear will show up at times, and it will try to scare you away from working on your goals. Do you know what you need to do to fear? Stick your tongue out at it. Yes, imaging fear being a very ugly thing with horns and a tail. Oh no, wait, that might be a deer J.

So next time you are feeling fearful, lonely, overworked, and hopeless remember this verse from The Word Of God, aka the Bible: 

Don’t fear, because I am with you; don’t be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will surely help you; I will hold you with my righteous strong hand.”

~Isaiah 41:10 :

 

God bless you, with lots of love,

Querin

 

P.S. I’m rooting for you. Keep on going and keep working hard on your dreams and goals with breaks in between to rest and recharge.

Happy Birthday Mom

Wow, my mom was laughing so hard that it made me start laughing too. Happiness is contagious.  She turned another year young. I was so happy to see her laughing with abandon. We went out for dinner at Joe’s Crab Shack. My oldest niece who went with us was also cracking up. Really, everyone on the table was just laughing and having fun.

It had been a while since I saw her laughing the way she did.  It made me ask myself this question: How can we create more moments like this on a regular basis? Let me know below any ideas you have on little simple things we can do to create more laughter in our daily living.

With lots of love!

Querin

 

P.S.  Find ways to laugh today (and every day)…not just smile.  Laughter is great for your health.

4th of July

“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for.  Keep on seeking, and you will find.  Keep on Knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”

~ Luke 11:9 NLT

So what did we do on the 4th of July?  My husband’s sister came to visit with her husband.  It was very nice to have them over.  We cooked and and after lunch we headed to a park near us.  Isaac had a really good time spending time with family.

How fast a baby grow

“Listen…and be wise, and set your heart on the right path.”

~ Proverbs 23:19 NIV

 

Over a year ago, a baby boy was born.  I can’t believe he is already so big; and this pics. are not even that recent.  They were taken in February for his birthday trip to Florida.  My baby has gotten so big so quickly.

Contentment In The Midst of A Crisis

Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

~Isaiah 40:31 NIV

 

Today I felt such a joy and satisfaction at work. There was a major system down issue, which happened since yesterday early afternoon. This morning when I arrived at work, the computer system was still down. Now, this was a major issue because in order for me to prepare the assignments for my team of over sixty, the system is needed. The first thing I did was to pray and to present the day to God.  I also was calmed; I knew what to do and what process to follow. I have to say that in the middle of chaos, I felt a special form of contentment, because I knew how to handle the situation.

I am grateful to God that everything worked out well and when the system came back up, we just transcribed the information to the system. I also noticed how well the team responded to the crisis. I shared with them in our morning meeting that I needed their full cooperation on this matter to ensure we had a successful operation and they all responded well. I felt that everyone was more collaborative than ever before.

I have to say that the way we handled this situation brought so much joy to me today, personally and professionally. I felt the team worked extremely well together.

Having contentment in the midst of a crisis can be and should be applied in any area of our lives. It can be applied in our daily, personal lives. Doing the best we can and learning from our day-to-day experiences can prepare us to stay calm and to be content when crisis happen. When chaos happens, focus on the solution, not on the problem. Talk to your team (in your personal life, they are the people close to you, your loved ones); tell them that you need their full collaboration. In the midst of crisis, there is no time for drama, as drama is distraction and you need your full focus and full attention on problem solving of a real situation. The first thing I did after learning the system was still down was to pray. I presented my day to God. I asked Him for the wisdom to have a successful day. I am grateful to God for I did…we did.

 

God bless you, with love,

Querin

 

Faith

“I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth.”

~Isaiah 42:16 NIV

There will be times that you will not know exactly where you are being taken.  There will be times that you will not even know how you got to where you got.  There will be times that you will simply feel too tired to carry on.  It is in those times that you must rest in God.  It is, specially, in those times that you must have an indubitable faith.

…then you will see the path clearly.  You will see God’s amazing love for you.  Your strength will be renewed grander then ever before.

God bless you, with love,

Querin

Thank you 2017! Thank you so much! 2018, WELCOME!

Every time I thank someone or “something,” I am really thanking God for that someone or something. What I really mean is “Thank you God for 2017.” So many beautiful and amazing things happened to me in 2017. There were some major challenges as well, but God I thank you for every single one of them, for they made me stronger and better as a person…as a human being.

Some major take away for me in 2017 were:

  • Motherhood
  • So grateful for my mom
  • Forgiving
  • Trusting God fully – His plan is better than my plan
  • Recovery
  • Prayer – this was big in 2017
  • Family re-reunion
  • Gratitude
  • Appreciation
  • Love

I have four nieces and two nephews. I love them and I love spending time with them. Unfortunately they don’t live close to me except my oldest niece – who is now a teenager. My youngest niece is seven years old. I wish I could say that having six nieces and nephews, I was already a pro taking care of infants when my baby was born. But that was not the case. I looked up on YouTube how to change a diaper and thank God for the YouTube moms who were sharing tips on how to take care of a baby. They were lifesavers. Yet within a short period of time, I did feel like a pro myself taking care of my baby.  I would say it was a combination of motherly instinct, reading about babies, and binging on YouTube on videos about babies. In 2017, I experienced for the first time being a mom. I am extremely grateful for that.

If you’ve read my previous posts, you’ll know that when I gave birth to my baby, my husband was still in The Dominican Republic awaiting his visa to come to the US. My mother, who wasn’t fully recovered from her third spinal cord surgery, was with me when my baby was born and she was a tremendous help. I am so grateful for her being there for me.  I don’t know what I would have done without her, since at the beginning I could not do much due to my C-section.  My eight weeks recovery felt like an eternity, but eventually I regained my strength, was able to walk straight up again and take on duties full force. Yet, the time my mother was with me was crucial and extremely important.  I will never forget that, and what she went thru for I know that she pushed herself to be there for me when she herself was still supposed to be resting and recovering from her spinal cord surgery. Thank you mom for being there for me in what has been, up until now, the most physically vulnerable time of my life as an adult.

It is important to forgive and to forgive from the heart. Don’t hold negative feelings towards anybody. It doesn’t do any good to you. Plus remember, God forgave us, who are we not to forgive others?

While 2017 was full of blessings, those blessings did not come without obstacles. There were days that I was worried and did not know what to do. Especially when the time to go back to work (after having my baby) was approaching. While my mother had been a tremendous help when I had my baby, she could not stay with me to take care of my baby when time to go back to work came. I started stressing and worrying about who would take care of my baby.  I turned to God for guidance and God was my guide in 2017 every step of the way.  I made the decision to take my baby to The Dominican Republic to stay with my husband.  My husband gave full unconditional love to our baby during the five months our baby was there.

Of course I was missing my baby enormously, but again I turned to God for guidance, and I wrote a letter to immigration asking them to expedite my husband’s visa hence my baby who was with him and I could all be united as a family.  My request was approved and a few months later my baby, my husband and I were all reunited.  Days before they arrived, I had signed the lease for our new apartment in my desired location. God acted right on time, no too soon, not too late.  I learned to trust God at a deeper level.  Even now, as I recount these events, I am in awe for my God.  My communication with God grew in such a way that I would communicate every single plan to Him and put it in His hands and I say, “God, if it is your will, it will be done.” I am also very grateful for the real estate young lady who helped us. She was kind. She was professional. she knew I needed a place for me and my family who was coming soon and she did everything she could to ensure we got our place. God I thank you for her.

In conclusion, 2017 was a year full of new experiences and challenges for me.  I am so grateful to God for everything. I am grateful for the power of prayer. To me Thanksgiving is not one day in the year. To me Thanksgiving is every day. I have so much to be thankful for. Every day, I live in gratitude. I have so much to be grateful for. God, I love you!

2018 I welcome you with open arms.  2017, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!

God Bless you!

Querin